Understanding Abusive Relationships

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YOUR CHILDREN NEED YOU TO HAVE CONFIDENCE

Alot of people distance themselves from people the deem useless for staying in an abusive relationship. This is for you. The person who still loves, but doesn’t understand.

You may have tried giving them ultimatums, offering money, a home a plane ticket. You may have put yourself in harm trying to make them leave.

And you’ve learnt that it doesn’t work. You can’t make them leave. They have to be ready and willing to do the work.

All abuse affects people emotionally/mentally. Most abuse is coupled with gas-lighting which is a form of manipulation aimed to make the person feel crazy and not trust themselves. It also can make the person isolated and socially anxious.

So here’s a few reasons people stay.


1 – they love their partner. Simple.
2 – they lack confidence to live life on their own. The capacity to make money and friends especially.
3 – they are fucking scared. Breakups esculate abuse. This is definitely a volatile time.
4 – they are resigned. Tired. Exhausted. Barely hanging in there. What’s the point anyway?
5 – they lack a belief that better exists and they don’t believe they deserve better. 
6 – They think abuse is normal and they have minimised and normalised it. “it only happens sometimes” “its not that often”.
7 – they don’t want people to dislike the partner. They still want to protect his reputation because they still believe he/she is a good person.
8 – they have strong beliefs that you don’t leave your children’s parent. Or end a marriage. Their loyalty to another is stronger than the loyalty to themselves.
9 – they have been threatened. Either with a family members safety, the children being taken from them or their own safety.

 

If you broke down every single one of these, you would see that words and ultimatums, money and a safe home is not enough for them to make that break.

They need support and they need to WANT it. The best you can do is learn about abuse so you can be there for them without harming your life, without isolating them and with the faith that when they are ready to make the break… You’ve got them.

To those who have broken free, I salute you. If you’ve done it before, you CAN do it again. 😘

I Am Walking Proof

My first boyfriend was actually crazy.
When I finally decided to leave, it wasn't because I had the strength it was because I realised if I did not I would die.
He then proceeded to chase me around, smash car windows on me, burn all my underwear, slash up my bed mattress so on so forth.
I had him put away.
Now, I did not have children with him so it was far far easier than what it is like with children. I've sat at the end of a long country driveway trembling with my child shaking in the dark. It's a very different feeling.
Get support. Don't just think you have to stay.
Please.

Can You Really Have Freedom?

YES YOU CAN have all these things, I am living this life right now. A life where I spend most my days feeling gratitude and love. Days full of connection with deep friendships. Doing work that I adore and that excites me deeply. Feeling in love with my daughter and at peace co-parenting. Knowing that my daughter has more connection with both her parents now than she ever did before. Isn’t that the goal?

Children need you to be yourself. When you know how to be confident within yourself as a empathetic present parent and you have turned up your intuition, you will be that person in your family that can show others how it is a possibility. You will be the key for changing the entire dynamics. You can forgive your parents for the things they did not know, and teach them new ways.

You will find that you start to create again, find hobbies and enjoy life again. To create again. To play with your children. To laugh. To have incredible sex once again. To feel amazing naked. To dance in the mirror. You will start to get back on your true path and begin to accept yourself as a whole. The dark, and the light. Don’t you want this?

This Is What You Get

Heart + Brain

Intuitive Readings

I will share insights and messages I get for you along the way and when needed I will use additional tools to dig deeper, always aiming to teach you how to use your intuition and trust in it. During the course I will send you a small gift to enhance your own abilities.

Intellect

I will seek to understand what is going on underneath the surface by asking specific questions. At times I will teach you techniques so you can become more aware of what is taking your mental energy.

WhatsAp Messaging Support

As a private client you will have access to message me after hours. I will dedicate time every day to ensure I have replied to your messages to guide you and keep you accountable for your goals.

Clarity Template

You will be sent a questionnaire designed to support you in gaining clarity around what your life looks like right now and allows me to see what recurring patterns we need to get to work on first.

Monthly Evaluation Checklist

On the 17th of each month you will receive an evaluation checklist so we can see what progress you fee you have made, and where you are feeling you need more progress.

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Within 24 hours after a session I will send you a written summary of our session including any action lists and further guidance

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The Power Of Questions

Being Confident To Be Ourselves Is Key

People often underestimate the power of being ourselves. The power of acceptance of our feelings and the consciousness to not behave through our emotions.

People still believe that authoritative “I’m the boss’ parenting is the only way. That being the controller will bring peace and contentment? Yet, it never has.

They believe that they have to live a hard challenging life and that’s just the way the cookie crumbles, but who even wants a crumbled cookie?

We all want the same things. To feel empathy, intimacy, safety. To feel accepted and a belonging. FREEDOM!

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I Understand How You Are Feeling

Super Mum Who Feels Super Fucked Up

This programme was created with my heart, my strength and my mana. This programme was created for you.

You are not alone.

I was seriously unfucking happy. My soul was dying. Everything felt dark. When I started, I had no support. No-one I spoke with except the universe. Who I did not think spoke back to me.

I would go to work and be faced with servings from the tax department, banks trying to repossess the house, employees not showing up due to drug taking, a family member accused of manslaughter, another trying to extort money for his drugs, my cousin committed suicide, a husband who wasn’t coming home…I mean fuck, even writing this makes me wonder how the fuck I survived those times.

The worst part, was the mum guilt. And the denial inside of me that my marriage had to end. I was fucking miserable. I would treat everyone like shit because inside my chest felt so stretched it was about to shatter. I had no idea how to get through this. I didnt want sex, I didnt want cuddles, I couldnt damn breath and  really, I didnt want anything except to go to sleep and stay asleep. 

I quit showing up places because I felt like a fraud. Like does anyone know what a damn lie I’m living! All these people think I live a flashy easy life with a beautiful family. If only they knew. 

I believed that most the world hated me. Thought I was scum. Not worthy of anything. 

And the worst part of it all was the mum guilt. I had so much guilt about how I was not showing up empathetically or naturally. And my hormones, I was so close to getting my uterus burnt so that I could stop suffering PMS. It was torture. Life was torture. 

I sometimes feel bad for my then husband. He is a good man. He just couldnt help me. He couldn’t support me. Because I didnt have my own back. I didnt like me. I didnt want me. 

Of course, over the next 1 to 2 years I played out my childhood story of abandonment and we split up when Addison was 6. She was the same age I was when my parents split.

And boy did I break down. And cry. Every day for around 6 hours a day for 6 weeks. I was a wreck. I wish I had had professional support then. 

I went on to cry every day for about 10 months. Every morning telling myself “i hate my life”

After another huge breakdown the time came that I realised I needed to snap the fuck out of this and show up and remember who the fuck I was.

At that time, I had 2 things only, hope that faith that hope existed. A belief that suicide was not an option.

I reached out and enlisted a team. An emotional intelligence coach, a reiki healer, a shamanic healer, various other energy workers, friends, a lawyer and of course the most important of all, ME! The girl in the mirror. 

From there, well, go and have a look on instagram at the woman I am today. Confident, cheeky, courageous and for the most HAPPY! I am happy. I am walking hope. I live in faith.

I wake up and think “I love my life” 

Oh and also, I am a fucking good coach!

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